Why Not to Fall in Love with your Dream Girl
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| "Dear doubt, where are your whereabouts?" |
So, you have finally met the girl you have been seeing in your dreams for over a year and a half. And now you have started to grow feelings for her, growing attached to every aspect of her life, so much so that each day, every second, you cannot stop thinking about her, which is unhealthy. Now it is interfering with your personal development, ruining your relationship with the people around you. And your ever-growing suspicion with every man she talks to is helping none. The best solution is to find a way out of this obsession and see her as she is. A friend.
Let me provide you with some sound arguments, which I hope will help you with your predicament.
The points I will go through:
- Dreams are overrated, anyway!
- Slight differences
- Ol’ reliable “Out-of-your-league”
- Her higher expectations
- “It’s not meant to be”
1. Dreams are overrated, anyway!
It may sound harsh but bear with me. Dreams and miracles are elements that we, the sophisticated land-hogging intelligence, have not figured it out yet. And we discard the things that we haven't figured out. It makes us less intelligent. So you shall too discard this notion of “since I have seen her in my dream before I could tell who she is in reality, she must be It”.
You are not Adam in 'Paradise Lost' who had seen his significant half, Eve, in his dream before her existence. You are a mere human being to whom miracles and dreams are only distractions, not a significant fraction of your life.
2. Slight differences
Differences, no matter how small, erect a border between two people. Now these borders may make two individuals independent of each other If given enough time. A couple that appreciates each other. Of course, all of this works when they are perfect for each other.
When they are not, these same small differences become two hostile territories. For instance, her being an extrovert, craftsman, and sharp student creates a contrast with your introverted nature, not being a crafty mind and lacking focus for a meritorious student. Her choice to be happy, with whatever, or whoever, does not help the argument with your near suicidal nature. Not to mention her sky-high ambition may one day give her wings, and the burden of your day-to-day woes only pushes you to the centre of Earth's core.
3. Ol’ reliable “Out-of-your-league”
Equipped with our arguments of slight differences, we move along to a more traditional way.
It takes a keen observer to notice differences. You have to burn some of your grey matter. Whereas, in our traditional “out-of-your-league” argument, you just bring out the differences that you see with your own eyes. Such as her big black eyes, dark insomnia spots under her eyes, her carefully carved Greek nose, and two thin-sliced lips ready to say, Not my problem. Her complexion reminds you of Scheherazade's tales. Her long, slender fingers make you long for a caress. With a contrast as high as the sky, you have a pair of dead eyes that do not cause any imagination for the onlooker. Your dark Insomnia spots make the onlooker wonder whether you are a freak or a serial killer. Your splashed-on-your-face nose does the job it was meant for. Nothing more, Nothing less. Your south-Asian signature thick lips threaten to replace the word that stands opposite to beauty in a dictionary. A woman always chooses someone who she thinks is funny, responsible, and reliable. Fortunately, you get only one point for having the latter. The amount of humour you have won't even twitch her lips, let alone make her smile. And she craves laughter. Just to bury the sorrow of her loneliness.
continued in a recent blog post due to a technical issue
Originally drafted on 16/06/24 (one day before Eid-ul-Adha)
Second draft 18/06/24 (one day later)
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